Month: July 2020

Q&A with Lysa TerKeurst: How to Lead Through Pain

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This article is a part of The Global Leadership Summit Faculty Spotlight series where we feature content from the upcoming #GLS20 speakers. This is a great opportunity to get a taste of what to expect from these amazing leaders!

 

The GLS team is thrilled to welcome the leader of Proverbs 31 ministries and best-selling author Lysa TerKeurst to #GLS20. Lysa will be sharing leadership insights from her 25 years of leading a global ministry that reaches six million people per year. Her most recent book is It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered.

 

Craig Groeschel: Tell us about Proverbs 31 Ministries.

Lysa TerKeurst: I’ve been leading Proverbs 31 Ministries for 25 years. We are a team of more than 60 people whose passion is to deliver content that connects in deep ways every day. We want to unleash the power of conversation around positive biblical messages that move people forward.

Craig: You lead 60 people and yet you’ve been through significant challenges in your personal life–both with your health and in your marriage. Can you share some of what you had to endure and how did you lead through your pain?

Lysa: First, we need to acknowledge that there are different levels of leading through pain. Sometimes, it isn’t wise to lead when you are in pain. I’m thankful I developed a culture inside my organization that allowed me to take a sabbatical that allowed me to heal.

I faced a situation in my marriage where my husband had an affair and the devastation that it caused me was significant. At the same time, I had a significant issue with my colon, and I wound up in critical care for over 15 days. On the heels of recovering from that, I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

In the midst of our organizations mission, vision and goals, here’s what I know. We cannot strip out the humanity of who makes up our organizations. If you are a leader with a beating heart, chances are there is something hurting you right now.

Craig: How did you face the day as a leader when, some days, you probably wanted to run away and hide?

Lysa: It’s good for my organization to see me be vulnerable as a leader. Vulnerability breeds trust. Vulnerability can breathe life into an organization. I was never promised an easy life, but I was promised good on the other side of every hardship that I faced.

Craig: How do you determine how much of your personal issues are appropriate to share?

Lysa: There’s a big difference between privacy and secrecy. For me, I chose to keep a lot of the details private–not because I was keeping secrets but because it was hard to invite public opinion into my very private pain.

However, it was also important for me to get out in front of the issue. When a leader is hurting, people will sense there is something wrong. And we don’t want them to wrongly assign the cause as problems within the organization. I was hurting as a leader. People could sense that. So, I decided it was more important for me to tell the story in truth than for the story to be told through the rumor mill. I acknowledged the facts of what I had been through. I acknowledged that I was not going to share every detail with the team or the public–but that I did have a small group of professional counsellors and advisors who did know the facts.

Craig: How do you deal with criticism as a leader?

Lysa: The very best time to forgive a critic is before you are criticized. As a leader, you’ve either been criticized, you are being criticized right now or you are about to be criticized. Some criticism should be paid attention to. Take the gift and let the rest go. It’s important to decide in advance that while you can’t control what other people say, you can choose how you react to it.

 

Watch the full interview to learn:

  • How leaders can increase their pain threshold
  • How to step into difficult situations in your organizations
  • How to push through the pain of deep discouragement

 

 

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Giving 100 Summit Tickets Away to Invest in Others

Giving 100 Summit Tickets Away to Invest in Others

About 10 years ago, I was invited by the NASCAR Chaplain to be a guest at a NASCAR race in Texas. There I met Eric Hood and I believe God had ordered our footsteps to cross. Eric is one of the field directors for the Global Leadership Network, and during the course of the day, we got to spend a lot of time together. Passionate about his role, Eric asked if I had ever attended The Global Leadership Summit (GLS).  Attended? Yes! Many times—8 or 9 times at that point!

But a bit later he asked me if I had ever invited others to attend with me as my guests. Surprisingly, that thought had never occurred to me! Yes, I had attended with some other guys I worked with, but we each paid our own registrations. I had never invited anyone to attend as my guest. So, Eric asked me, “If I gave you 10 free passes would you be willing to invite others to attend with you?” I instantly said “YES!”

It is more of a blessing to give than to receive. So, I always want to be giver!

For me that next GLS was unlike any GLS I had ever attended. And it was not because of the speakers—although they were great—it was because of what happened relationally with the friends who attended with me as my guests. Starting right after the first session, they began to thank me for inviting them. And they continued to thank me for the whole two days and most sent thank you notes or emails afterwards. We enjoyed visiting together during breaks and over lunch as we talked about what we were learning together. I came away from the experience with a realization of the obvious—the GLS is something I could give to my friends.

Every year, I feel like I have gotten my money’s worth during the first hour of the event.

For the past several years I have paid for over 100 friends to attend the GLS—Cru leaders, coaches and ministry leaders. With all the satellite locations across the U.S. they can attend close to their homes, wherever they live, and if they are close to Dallas, they can join me! It is an opportunity for me to be a giver! And the money I invest comes back to me many times over both in coaching commitments and money raised, but even more importantly, it deepens my relationships with my friends and gives me the opportunity to see them grow as leaders!

It excites me to see leaders grow and continually increase their effectiveness, especially as it relates to expanding God’s kingdom! I also love opening doors for young leaders. It’s true as the saying goes, “when a leader gets better everybody wins!”

This year will be my 19th year attending the GLS! 

Giving 100 Summit Tickets Away to Invest in OthersEvery year, I feel like I have gotten my money’s worth during the first hour of the event. Everything after that is frosting on the cake! I’ve gotten lessons from almost every GLS talk I have ever heard.  But the one that stands out is one I share in the first chapter of my newest book, Now That’s a Great Question.

Here is a short excerpt:

Several years ago, at The Global Leadership Summit, one of the speakers was Liz Wiseman, speaking on Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter.

I thought, “This is going to be great session—because she will be talking about leaders like me!” But I was in for a BIG SURPRISE. Liz started by talking about “Diminishers.” And I soon realized she was talking about me! The more she shared, the lower I sank in my chair. What I had thought were “Multiplier” traits were actually “Diminisher” traits.

When you bring a “Diminisher” a problem, they not only solve it for you, but they think you will be really impressed with their wisdom and grateful for their help. But when you bring a “Multiplier” a problem, they ask you, “What do you think the solution might be?” They let you solve your own problem.

When you bring a “Diminisher” an idea, they tell you what would make your idea even better. They believe you will go away thinking, “Wow! I am so glad I asked. Those additional ideas will really improve my plan!” They do not realize that you will go away thinking, “Nothing I ever bring him/her is good enough!” But when you bring a “Multiplier” your idea they say, “Wow! Great Idea! Tell me more!”

When a “Diminisher” asks you to take on a new project they will most often say, “Will you help me with my project?” They want to give you responsibility but no authority, and then tell you exactly how they want you to execute their project, step-by-step. When a “Multiplier” asks you to take on a new project, they share that they have a “Leadership Development-Rich Opportunity” for you. They invite you to take on this new assignment. If you accept, they make you the Project Director—giving you authority with responsibility. They ask you to do “Draft One” of the strategic plan to successfully execute the project. They will ask you to let them know what resources you will need to succeed and how they can help you.

I have so much more to learn as a leader!

Will you join me at GLS20 along with some of your friends, colleagues, clients and prospects?

I’m excited to return to the GLS in 2020 to discover more leadership lessons to apply to my life and invite even more friends to join me!

Giving 100 Summit Tickets Away to Invest in Others

Will you join me at GLS20?

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Giving Without Expectations—Supporting My Community Through Coronavirus

Giving Without Expectations—Supporting My Community Through Coronavirus

When I was 19, my dad was diagnosed with ALS. This event changed me and how I approach all aspects of my life going forward. My cousin, Ray, told me, “You have two choices—go through this or grow through it. What you choose will determine everything.” 

So, I chose to grow through itand it changed my life. I carried this idea with me both in life and businessAnd today as a business owner and entrepreneur, I have a passion for helping people and their businesses grow, especially through challenges and by adapting a culture of achieving a greater purpose than profit.  

Growth Through the Summit 

Later in life, as an attendee of The Global Leadership Summit, my boundaries got pushed further into a combined approach of business and growing Jesus’ Kingdom. I still remember the first time I attended the Summit 15 years agotaking notes upon notes. As I listenedI received both personal and business insights and challenges.  

You have two choices—go through this or grow through it. What you choose will determine everything.

Since then, the opportunities at the Summit for continued personal development have challenged me to be better. It is a regular source of inspiration, education and equipping. And I have been able to model much of what I learn and how I learn back into the organizations I work with.  

A Part of Something Bigger 

Early in my career, I was inspired by a business I was working for that strived to give back in significant ways. I was blown away by their generosity. I realized that the work I did every day, impacted the world, not just my world. I “felt” the effects of making a difference!    

As I’ve built my own business, I’ve developed a dream to further develop a sense of fulfillment in all that I doI truly believe when people wake up, knowing they are part of something bigger, their lives can be exponentially more rewarding. So, I desire to spread that message as far as I can and am starting right here in my local community. 

Give Without Expectations 

In the wake of the recent global health pandemic, I had a conversation with Matt Hoskins, the CEO of PayProTec, and we talked about the need to help our local area restaurants through this season, especially the restaurants that didn’t have corporate backing to help them through. Matt came up with the idea for Gift Card Surge, and together we built a platform. Not only is this platform now helping local businesses, it is also helping people in our community by providing meals at discounted rates! The gift cards put cash in the hands of businesses up front, while offering discounted gift cards to the public.  

When you give without expectations, there is no disappointment, only service.

The idea has helped our community rally around those businesses. In my opinion, this is better than just throwing donations at a business, because this creates customer engagement by the community, which in turn creates conversations. Each purchase of a meal they may not have purchased otherwise then becomes an opportunity to create an experience that is then shared and talked about. Additionally, it is keeping employees on payroll.   

We have inadvertently created a marketing platform straight from the desire to give without expectations! 

My advice to others leading in unprecedented new realities: 

 

Have a mindset of growth. 

“Grow” through this instead of simply “go” through it. There is a big difference. Growing through it opens the door to constant education and pivoting as needed.  
 

Develop action and a culture of giving without expectations.

When you give without expectations, there is no disappointment, only service. Along the way seeds get planted that will undoubtedly yield positive fruit for individuals and business. 

 

My final advice is to attend The Global Leadership Summit this year! 

The current environment we find ourselves in currently makes incredible content and education from leaders more important than ever.   

Leaders have an opportunity to lead in a way not often encountered. There are more people that are struggling than have been in a long time. If you can attend and walk away with just a few things that will help you bring a new idea, encouragement, hope and direction to those that you influence, isn’t that worth it?   

Leaders have to continually invest in themselves, and attending the Summit is an opportunity to do just that. 

Is There A Case for Lowering a Leader’s Confidence?

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This article is a part of The Global Leadership Summit Faculty Spotlight series where we feature content from the upcoming #GLS20 speakers. This is a great opportunity to get a taste of what to expect from these amazing leaders!

 

The GLS team is excited to welcome to #GLS20  Dr. Tomas Chamorro Premuzic, an international authority on psychological profiling, talent management and leadership developmentHe will be sharing his new research into the beneficial traits of curiosity and humility. 

Get a sneak peak of Dr. Tomas in his TED talk on The Power of Negative Thinking.


Few traits are celebrated as much as confidence, particularly in the West. This is less evident in Asian societies, where expertise, self-knowledge and humility are valued more, but the tendency to glorify higher levels of self-confidence and self-belief, even if they are unrealistic, is increasingly universal. 

So, for instance, much of the  popular advice  focused on helping people become leaders is based on the premise that if people believe in themselves, they will in turn make others believe in them, too. Adopt a can-do attitude, the story goes, be a hero in your own mind, lean in, change your mindset, and anything will be possible. Oh, and don’t worry about what people think of you: if you think you are great, you are! 

There are three big problems with the advice to “believe in yourself”:

 

1. The first problem is that there is only a trivial relationship between confidencehow good people think they are—and competence, how good they actually are.

Scientific research correlating measures of self-perceived and actual ability across a wide range of talent domains (e.g., math, music, IQ, creativity, sense of humor and driving skills) suggests there is merely a  9% overlap between people’s confidence and their competence, which means that most of the time we are forced to pick between one or the other.  

I don’t know about you, but personally I would rather have a doctor, driver, teacher or financial advisor who is competent rather than confident, and I think the same logic must surely apply to leaders. 

 

2. The second problem is that the advice is hard to follow.

We can’t just wake up one day and somehow decide to be more confident or boost our levels of self-belief, at least not without engaging in a significant amount of reality distortion (some substances tend to help here).

Again, if we look at the actual  science of confidence, rather than the myths propagated by the self-help industry, we can see that most of the variability between people’s confidence levelsand the reason why it is obvious that some people have more of it than othersis due to people’s inherent personality or temperament, rather than deliberate or conscious efforts to elevate one’s confidence. 

So, when we tell people that all they have to do in order to become a leader is to be more confident, and people believe us, they will most likely end up frustrated for failing to accomplish that goal. It’s a bit like asking people to be someone else. When people believe that this ought to be a simple task, and that their future career success is not just in their hands, but merely dependent on changing their self-views, they will end up feeling bad when they fail to achieve this allegedly simple task. “They could  be anything they wanted, if only they believed in themselves, yet they are so inept that they cannot even believe in themselves!” Or perhaps their main issue is that they don’t want it enough. 

The more we perpetuate  the myth that people’s success is in their own handsas if differences in  social class, privilege, temperament and talent didn’t constrain (and augment) our potential and our opportunitiesthe more guilt we make people feel when they fail to achieve their dreams. It’s akin to telling them that if they don’t manage, it’s just their fault. 

 

3. The third problem is that it does sometimes work.

That is, there are indeed times when people do manage to advance in their careers and climb up the ladder, because of their inflated egos, to everyone else’s detriment. 

When we select or pick leaders on the basis of their confidence rather than competence, we  end up with people  in charge who are overconfident, unaware of their limitations, unjustifiably pleased with themselves and prone to taking reckless risks, making avoidable mistakes, blaming others for their own mistakes and  taking credit  for other people’s achievements.   

If you think this profile is quite common in politicians, that is because we tend to select them on confidence and charisma rather than competence and integrity, and unfortunately the business world is not much different. After all, political skills are not only found in politicians, and they are a common career lubricant in any group or organization. And since confidence and overconfidence are generally higher (and much more celebrated) in men than women, men over-index in leadership roles, particularly when they are  not competent. 

 

To be sure, there is no inherent problem having leaders who are confident and charismatic, so long as they are also competent and ethical, but our selection methods (from televised debates to job interviews) focus so much on style, that we end up overlooking substance. Alas, all-style-and-no-substance  will get you farther than  no-style-and-all-substance. 

When we pick leaders on the basis of their superlative confidence, we should not be surprised that individuals with narcissistic and psychopathic tendencies are over-represented in the leadership ranks

When we pick leaders on the basis of their superlative confidence, we should not be surprised that individuals with narcissistic and psychopathic tendencies are over-represented in the leadership ranks, or that few traits are as emblematic of leadership  incompetence as arrogance, a surplus of confidence. Delusions of grandeur and megalomania pay off for a simple reason: it is much easier  to deceive others when you have already managed to deceive yourself. 

Confidence is a double-edge sword

Confidence is a double-edge sword, distorting leaders’ self-awareness and inflating their self-concept and fantasized talents, while at the same time fooling others into believing their delusion. The main advantage high self-confidence confers is to help people hide their incompetence. This is quite common in leaders, because they generally have too much of it.  

And it’s not really their fault, so we shouldn’t blame them for being chosen. We should blame ourselves or the people who select them for displaying the very traits that contribute to their downfall, perhaps due to an inability to focus on what actually matters: talent. It is a lot easier to measure confidence than actual competence or expertise, and it takes competence to spot and stop incompetence. 

To be clear, I’m not implying that the world would be better off if leaders were pathologically insecure, phobic, or fearfulbut we are pretty much at the  opposite extreme right nowIn a logical world, we would select leaders not just on the basis of their competence, but also when their confidence levels are in-sync with their actual talents, so they are capable of self-awareness, understanding their limitations and able to accept their mistakes with humility in order to adjust their future behaviors and get better. The best level of confidence a leader can have, especially for those who follow or depend on her, is that which enables leaders to make an accurate evaluation of risks and opportunities, know what they don’t know and possess a level of judgment that is superior to her team, followers or organization. 

Most people have too much rather than too little confidence

Contrary to what you may think if you take a look at the vast collection of self-help books devoted to boosting people’s confidence, humanity is not insecure. In fact, research across multiple paradigms in psychology, from  behavioral economics  to  neuroscience, suggests that most people have too much rather than too little confidence, and social psychologist have shown for decades that there is a universal bias, called self-enhancement, whereby our preference for thinking highly of ourselves exceeds our interest in understanding reality. 

So, yes, there is  a case for lowering leaders’ confidence.  

Because we select them on confidence, they have too much of it, and because that actually makes them  less  competent, they would benefit from a reality-check, which can only come from feedback that enables them to adjust their self-perceived talents downwards, so that they are aligned with their actual talents. 

We should spend less time flattering, and more time flattening, leaders’ egos.

It would make them better and everyone would benefit from it. 

An even better option would be to select individuals for leadership roles when they are competent rather than confident, not least because overconfident leaders are often immune to the critical feedback they need, to the point that no facts, evidence, or rational arguments may be enough to lower their confidence and make them self-aware. This can be done by focusing more on substance, and less on style. By picking people with good technical expertise, intelligence, curiosity, humility, empathy and integrity, even if they aren’t great at self-promotion, and particularly when they don’t have a distorted sense of their capabilities. 

Alas, this is not likely to happen any time soon, at least in the West. This is why the idea that we should lower leaders’ confidence sounds as heretic and controversial today as when I first wrote about it eight years ago. The more overconfident we become as a society, the less open we become to the simple idea that we may not be as good as we think.  

As  Oliver Burkeman noted, “the solution to a world run by overconfident fools is not to make the other half overconfident too”. 

This article originally appeared on Forbes.com.

 

Join Dr. Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic and other 14 other world-class speakers for The Global Leadership Summit on Thursday and Friday, August 6-7, 2020. Get ready for your two-day infusion of fresh ideas, actionable concepts, leadership principles and heartfelt inspiration from a world-class faculty at a location near you!

 

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