Month: October 2020

Motivation: Are You Running on Clean Fuel or Dirty Fuel?

African American business coach speaking presentation at briefing
For decades, managers have been using “one size fits all” methods to motivate their teams. In his new book The Motivation Code, my colleagues and I have distilled over fifty years of research into what truly drives us. We explain that there are twenty-seven unique motivational themes in which individuals are driven to experience engagement and deep fulfillment in life and work. Once you understand your unique Motivation Code, it will forever change the way you approach your work. 
This excerpt from the book explains the “why” behind our work and our hope for its contribution to human flourishing.

 

In our universe, energy is conserved, meaning that when you burn something, you release that potential energy into the world, where it can be harnessed. For millennia, humans have burned wood, brush, and eventually fossil fuels to keep themselves warm, cook food, and even hurtle through time and space in rockets going hundreds of miles per hour.

However, not all the fuels we use are clean. Some of them burn dirty. They leave by-products. When we burn coal or wood, they leave soot and ash. And when we burn fossil fuels, they release gases into the atmosphere that can cause harmful side effects to life on earth.

In the same way, I believe we need to be mindful of the fuels we burn to motivate our work.

 

Dirty Fuel

All too often, these fuels burn dirty.

Anger, seizing ownership, proving your worth at all costs, putting others down, and extracting what you can: these are “against” fuels, meaning they fundamentally oppose someone or something else. They fuel us to right some personal wrong from the past instead of focusing on creating possibility. They cause us to hold grudges.

Yes, they may produce the energy needed to get through our work, and maybe even to achieve our goals, but they leave behind residue on those with whom we interact, and on ourselves: bitterness.

And when bitterness takes root, it makes engagement, creativity, and generosity very challenging. We begin to see other people as the enemy rather than assuming the best of them. Bitterness bounds possibility, because the only options available to us are those that direct our creativity against our enemies.

When we are working against something, we will never fully feel gratified, even when we have success.

  • We might need to continuously tell the story of how we bested someone else.
  • We might need to remind ourselves over and over that we didn’t get the last word.
  • We might need to stir up our anger toward others as we tackle new projects.

 

Instead of focusing on the positive impact we want to make on the world, we become obsessed with vanquishing those we feel have wronged us.

“Save every rejection letter and use it as fuel!”
“Channel your anger into your work!”
“Show them who they’re messing with!”

I hear this kind of well-intended advice handed out frequently, especially to young aspiring artists and entrepreneurs.

Like most advice, it seems profound on the surface, and actually works for some people—for a while. However, I believe this kind of dirty fuel is poorly conceived. Striving to prove others wrong will work temporarily. But once we’ve done that, what do we have? What motivates our work when we’re stuck on one side of an argument? With that mindset, we will always need another enemy to stay motivated.

The truth is, our fight to prove others wrong is born out of a fear that they might be right, that maybe we aren’t actually good enough, that we aren’t worthy of being on this stage, in this room, or on this team. When we strive to gain acceptance from someone who has rejected us, the reality is that the acceptance we crave is our own.

In the end, no level of achievement can ever quell the internal whispering of:

“You’re not good enough.”
“It’s never going to be good enough for them.”

“You don’t belong here.”

That’s why we need to choose clean fuels to motivate our work.

 

Clean Fuel

The Motivation Code is the cleanest fuel I’ve discovered.

Because it’s unique to each of us, it’s the best way we can make our personal contributions to the world while also feeling alive, engaged, and fully present. Operating within what naturally drives us allows us to work toward the outcomes we most crave.

  • Who are you working for, not against?
  • What change are you creating every single time you choose to sit down and do the work?
  • What outcomes motivate you so much that you’re willing—if necessary—to suffer for them?

This is the purest form of true motivation.

The most profound work you will ever do will be accomplished only when you are burning clean fuel.

I believe this happens when you operate squarely and consistently within your Motivation Code. The world needs you to be fully alive, fully engaged, and fully yourself.

And as you move forward in hope and possibility, uniquely driven to contribute to this world, your impact will resound.

Take the MCODE Assessment to tap into the power of your unique motivation here.

 

Five Reasons Why Your Manager Should Care about Motivation:

1. It improves retention and increases job satisfaction.

 

2. Operating within Motivation Code increases the degree of discretionary energy team members spend on work.

 

3. Awareness of others’ motivations will improve collaboration and decrease unnecessary conflict.

 

4. Better alignment of tasks and natural motivations means deeper organizational engagement.

 

5. When people feel understood, they feel more psychologically safe within the team.

 

Motivation Code by Todd Henry Book Cover

 

Excerpted from The Motivation Code: Discover the Hidden Forces That Drive Your Best Work by Todd Henry with permission of Portfolio, an imprint of Penguin Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Random House LLC. Copyright © Todd Henry, 2020.

True Leadership Builds a Culture Where People Thrive

True Leadership Builds a Culture Where People Thrive2

Leadership is a privilege.

Over the last ten years, The Global Leadership Summit (GLS) has been key in helping me develop my leadership skills. But the truth is, I never really wanted to be a leader in the traditional sense. I was once even told since I didn’t have a passion to be in the C-suite, I wasn’t suited to be a leader. Over time I learned where we work really doesn’t matter that much to God—it’s about how we honor Him in what we’re doing. I’ve discovered the true meaning of leadership, how it can shift culture and help people thrive—and it turns out it has nothing to do with being in the C-suite. Leadership is a privilege, not a right, and can be done in any venue, at any time, from any position.

Over time I learned where we work really doesn’t matter that much to God—it’s about how we honor Him in what we’re doing.

One of my biggest takeaways was from the GLS in 2019 when Patrick Lencioni came out and said what the world needs is fewer leaders. He started to unpack that and said if you are not committed to team building, communication, or you think you’re in it for your own reward, you’re not open to having a critical conversation and you don’t see meetings as a platform for fostering shared understanding, creativity and key decisions, you probably should not be a leader. It was a wake-up call.

At the Summit, I often hear the phrase “everybody wins when a leader gets better.” This means leadership is not about me—leadership means my staff’s success is more important than mine. It’s not my passion to be in the C-suite, but I do have a passion for making an impact toward the mission and vision of my organization, and it comes down to the “why” of what we do. I’ve learned to focus on the “why” no matter what role I’ve been in.

I had several different roles at a children’s hospital over a span of seventeen years, but one day the CEO approached me and said he wanted me to head up IT. I told him it was a really bad idea. But he saw something in me I didn’t see at the time and how I could contribute to bringing out the best in the team—he also knew my creativity and passion for technology would be better suited to IT, even though I didn’t have experience there. And IT is where I’ve been for the last 20 years. I am forever grateful for his insight.

Part of my role today is to make sure that every staff person understands their role, how they fit and how their contribution is a part of a greater vision we’re working towards—and for us, it is doing everything we can to have a healthier community. From my perspective, everybody on the team is important—there is no role that is any more or any less important than any other role in working toward this vision.

If we want to have a healthy community, we have to start by building a healthy culture as an organization.

After my time of service at the children’s hospital, I transitioned to a community health system when we were embarking on a big change with a new information system. I was in over my head, but I realized the experts were all around me.

I know in any meeting I’m not the smartest person in the room, but I’ve tried to establish a culture where everybody is heard…

I know in any meeting I’m not the smartest person in the room, but I’ve tried to establish a culture where everybody is heard, and everybody contributes. One of the beauties with IT is that there is always an answer—it may not be elegant, but there’s always an answer. You just have to keep pressing towards it. My favorite meetings are when you have eight people with different ideas about how to solve a problem, but after an hour of collaboration, trust, breaking down silos and working together on the ideas, you come out with a ninth solution that is even better than the eight you started with.

Something started to shift culturally. I was asking, “What do you think? Ultimately, I need to make a decision about this, but I’m interested in what you think would be the best solution?”

It took a year for the staff to actually believe I wasn’t coming in with an answer, and that I actually wanted to hear their ideas and why—I wasn’t putting on a show. I also wanted to create a culture of very frequent and accessible communication. (A lot of this has been influenced by Patrick Lencioni at the GLS and his book Death by Meeting.)

The Impact of a Healthy Culture

One of my favorite examples of this is from two years ago when our main information system in a two-month period failed five times. Our credibility in the organization was at risk. So, I would get into a teaching auditorium with our whole staff for Q&A. One of the things I stressed was, either we solve this, or the organization is going to have someone come in from the outside to solve this for us. But I think we can solve it.

So, we set a goal for the organization to commit to 90 days of no downtime on our core system. We put up progress posters all over the building. Every day when our staff came in, they knew what day we were on in the process. We talked about it all the time. The team started to parse out where we needed to improve. And when they solved the issue, it was a source of pride for the team because their credibility was back. Now they are really thriving.

…either we solve this, or the organization is going to have someone come in from the outside to solve this for us. But I think we can solve it.

It comes down to that critical conversation and being really truthful with them about the reality and how it is within our control to improve. That’s the value of building a healthy culture of trust and collaboration.

This reality became evident when the software we use was being installed by a competitor within 15 minutes of us. 70 of our staff are certified to run this software. The competitor needed 40 people to run their software. I knew there would be a compensation component and a need to make sure their work life balance was going to be accommodated, but I also knew it would come down to culture.

I purposely err on being highly transparent with my team. They are intelligent people and need timely information to help guide their personal and professional lives. When I knew the other organization would be starting their hiring process, I shared with my team the following scenarios in an open forum:

  1. If you were here when we went live with our information system, you know it was a monumental time with great reward. If you would like to experience this journey again, I will fully understand and wish you well if you move to the competing organization.
  2. If you were not here when we went live, and would like to experience a project like this for the first time, I fully understand and wish you well if you desire to move on and take on a new opportunity
  3. But, if you decide to transition because you find a more compelling vision to work for somewhere else, that’s on me. I will have failed in my leadership role if that is the case.

When the other organization was recruiting their 40, we thought we might lose 10 out of our 70 certified staff, but we only lost 2. And one came back in two weeks, and the other ended up leaving the other organization and going out of market. This unexpected outcome was due to the daily leadership efforts of numerous managers and supervisors staying connected to their teams and providing opportunity for growth and engagement. That’s the impact of a healthy culture.

Being a Positive Influence for God’s Kingdom

The Summit has also helped me realize that my primary role as a leader is not to just execute. Every conversation, every decision, every email and every phone call are opportunities to be a positive influence for your team, the broader organization, our community and God’s Kingdom.

The prayer I have with my wife in the morning most often includes me saying, “Lord I pray for the creativity, the compassion and the wisdom I need for today that I don’t have on my own.” When I pray through my calendar for the day, the people I will be with and what we’re trying to accomplish, I will say, “This is what’s on my calendar, but what do you want me to spend time with today that’s not on my calendar?” Sometimes the answer is to be to be sensitive to a hallway conversation about a staff member’s family or when to encourage someone when they have made a mistake which has affected our organization.

Every conversation, every decision, every email and every phone call are opportunities to be a positive influence for your team, the broader organization, our community and God’s Kingdom.

I’m a big advocate of believing that people evolve, learn and mature in their thought process in how they act and respond. In our society there seems to be less tolerance to recognize people are on a journey and we’re not all perfect. So, how can we show grace? I try to do that in the workplace as much as I can. On my better days I pray before walking into each room. Sometimes it’s just a reminder of this being God’s place and remembering it’s not about me.

The gravity of my words is not lost on me. My words can build people up or tear people down. As a leader I need to be very aware of how I’m acknowledging people and looking for the Spirit’s ongoing counsel—How can I encourage this person? How do I speak the truth with grace? It’s also about being consistent so people know how you’re going to respond. Don’t be a volatile cannon. Be consistent in how you honor people. Do the right thing for the right reason. Simply bringing grace and mercy into the workplace and cultivating a bigger-picture vision of what we’re all about is a way of bringing God’s Kingdom here on earth.

How COVID-19 tested our culture

During the Covid season, our command center has a had daily focus on dealing with the Covid outbreak here and managing hospital operations. One of the leadership challenges has been to recognize how pervasively the pandemic has impacted people. It’s not just the nurse who is now in this stressful situation, it’s also the family that she or he has to protect with kids at home who are not in their normal school rhythm or their parents who have a compromised immune system.

There is no part of our work that is not touched by this. So, being able to talk to our staff in our command center and say, “In the midst of all that you’re managing, all the people you contact throughout the day, remember everybody has a story and staff are bringing those stories to work. How do we care for others and recognize the wholeness of who they are, not just the work-side of who they are?”

I don’t think about the impact of my leadership much, but every once in a while, I get a glimpse, and I still wonder why all these people are following me. I think God places his children in places to lead but doesn’t want us to hang onto our leadership position too tightly.

Attending the Summit is worth the investment.

Many other leadership conferences would be much longer, more expensive and less diverse. I haven’t come across anything else quite like it. This year, my team watched the Summit together online separately from our own homes, but we had Zoom meetings during the breaks and talked about what we heard. Even with the event being virtual this year, it was still just as effective. Each of my direct reports has a challenge from this year’s Summit incorporated into their performance goals for this coming period (quarterly identification of one thing that is no longer working and needs to be changed).

One of the key values are the seeds that are planted that become compass points when we are in an unprecedented time…

With all the competing events for our calendars, to set aside two days as a leader just to hit pause on your to-do list and be able to take all your baggage into the room and have it put in perspective again and hit reset is so worth it.

One of the key values are the seeds that are planted that become compass points when we are in an unprecedented time, or when we are charting steps in our organization that are completely unplanned. How do we respond? I get the depth of teaching to push forward from my attending the Summit each year.

President George W. Bush’s Powerful Message of Hope During the Coronavirus Pandemic

GLS20 President George W Bush Marquee
This article is a part of The Global Leadership Summit Faculty Spotlight series where we feature content from the #GLS20 speakers. This is a great opportunity to get a taste of what to expect from these amazing leaders!

 

We are honored to welcome this special guest to the #GLS20 faculty lineup!  

Join us at The Global Leadership Summit for Decision Points: One-on-One with President George W. Bush* where he’ll discuss his time in office and the leadership lessons he learned while serving as the 43rd president of the United States during one of the nation’s most difficult eras.   

President Bush recently shared a powerful message of hope and unity with the world. Although his interview during the Summit will not focus on the COVID-19 pandemic, the remarks he shared within the video below gives us a glimpse of the President’s perspective on leadership. 

 

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This is a challenging and solemn time in the life of our nation and world.  

A remorseless, invisible enemy threatenthe elderly and vulnerable among us—a disease that can quickly take breath and life. 

Medical professionals are risking their own health for the health of others. And we’re deeply grateful. 

Officials at every level are setting out the requirements for public health that protect us all. And we all need to do our part. 

The disease also threatens broader damageharm to our sense of safety, security and community. The larger challenge we share is to confront an outbreak of fear and loneliness. And it is frustrating that the normal tools of compassiona hug, a touchcan bring the opposite of the good we intend.  

In this case, we serve our neighbor by separating from them. But we cannot allow physical separation to become emotional isolation. This requires us to be not only compassionate but creative in our outreach. And people across the nation are using the tools of technology in the cause of solidarity.  

In this time of testing, we need to remember a few things: 

First, let us remember that we have faced times of testing before. Following 9/11, I saw a great nation rise as one to honor the brave, to grieve with the grieving and to embrace unavoidable new duties. And I have no doubt, none at all, that this spirit of service and sacrifice is alive and well in America.  

Second, let us remember that empathy and kindness are essential, powerful tools of national recovery. Even at an appropriate social distance, we can find ways to be present in the lives of others, to ease their anxieties and share their burdens.  

Third, let us remember that the suffering we experience as a nation, does not fall evenly. In the days to come, it will be especially important to care in practical ways for the elderly, the ill and the unemployed.  

Finally, let us remember how small our differences are in the face of this shared threat. In the final analysis, we are not partisan combatants. We are human beings, equally vulnerable and equally wonderful in the sight of God.  

We rise or fall together. 

And we are determined to rise. 

 

 

To hear more from this incredible leader, and get a leadership boost of insight and encouragement, join us online or in-person at a participating host site for the GLS20 Replay on October 22-23, 2020 or November 6-7, 2020. Watch 16 full-length, world-class faculty talks, and also experience the incredible entertainment and programming from the live event in August!

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If you’re unable take part in the Replay events, don’t worry! You can also catch this amazing content with GLS On-Demand where you can access 14 of the 16 full-length talks for one year, giving you time to watch at your convenience.

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*Please note: This session is closed to the media and will only be available to attendees on Day 1 of the Replay Events within the U.S and Canada—it will not be available for viewing on Day 2 or at any point during the 7 Day Video-on-Demand period. 

The GLS20 Audience Makes an Impact Globally

Woman in audience watching the GLS

The Global Leadership Summit audience in 2020 has taken up the charge to use their leadership and influence to bring positive transformation to our world, and I couldn’t be more grateful. What this audience does and who they are gives us reason to host The Global Leadership Summit (GLS) each year and also provide timely leadership resources all year long. Recognizing how much this year has required immeasurable courage and resilience, I trust that the GLS provided fresh resolve for leaders to use their influence for good.

I’m writing you today to share some exciting updates about what the Summit audience has come together to do and how they’ve contributed to what is about to happen in the coming months.

When we asked the Summit audience to help share the event beyond the two days of the Summit in the U.S. by giving a gift toward a match of $1M, thousands generously stepped up. We are excited to announce we met the match! I am still in awe.

The Summit audience joined together to inspire vision and ignite transformation, reaching hundreds of thousands of people through the GLS this year, not just globally, but also here in the U.S. including more than 9,000+ incarcerated men and women who watched the Summit from prison, hundreds of leaders who watched from homeless shelters and transition homes, as well as many trafficking survivors and at-risk youth who watched from facilities around the country.

People found new hope and were reminded that they have value and influence!

A group of inmates gather together to hear Craig Groeschel at the GLS19.One thing that has me in awe about The Global Leadership Summit is the outlook you carry—that including us prisoners in your mission is of great importance. Labeled as outcasts and menaces to society, you show by your efforts in making the events available to us that you see us as Christ sees us—valuable. Alejandro, GLS attendee at Heritage Trails Correctional Facility, U.S.

Because of the support of our generous Summit audience, we’ve already started working on the translations and training, while also providing resources to bring the Summit across the globe in another 60+ languages and 123 countries—many of them now requiring technology to provide the event online for the first time. This support will be especially critical in regions where poverty and corruption are an everyday reality.

Leaders attending the GLS in Liberia during the Ebola EpidemicThe GLS is critical. In many areas of the world, there are multiple avenues people can pursue to fine-tune their leadership ability. But this is not true in countries like mine. Having done this for about 9 years, the GLS has now become a household word. And the result is transformation. Inevitably it’s creating a better country. It’s creating better opportunities for young people. And because we are so global, the ripple effect is creating a better world. Dr. Katurah Cooper, GLS attendee, Liberia

Before I close, I want to ask you for two favors:
  1. Please pray. Pray for the next few months as our teams and volunteers take The Global Leadership Summit to hundreds of thousands more leaders around the world in another 123 countries who are desperate for hope and encouragement as they seek to become better equipped to face challenges and lead positive change in their communities.
  2. Stay encouraged and connected. Your leadership matters all year round. We’d love to stay connected with you and support you with leadership resources, as well as stories from a global community of leaders like you who are leading with courage and resilience. Find out more about our free resources and stay up to date with the latest stories from our network at theglsn.org/Leadership-Now.

If you were a part of The Global Leadership Summit this year, thank you again for joining us!

GLSnext Event Series Notes: How to Conquer Impossible Goals, Featuring Rory Vaden

Rory Vaden will speak at the GLSnext Event Series on October 6,2020.

During the GLSnext Event Series on October 6, 2020, Rory Vaden challenged our audience with a fresh perspective on how to approach  impossible goals. Below are the notes from this session to help you digest and apply these helpful concepts and skills.

 

When it comes to being successful, conquering impossible goals and doing things we’ve always dreamed of, there can be a lot of confusion about the truth it can take to do that.

My mom used to say, “Success in life all comes down to the choices that you make.”

 

Here is a choice to think of to yourself:

 

  • Let’s say you come up with a set of escalators and some stairs. Did you take the stairs?
  • What do most people choose? Most people take the escalator.
  • We naturally gravitate toward the path of least resistance. We move unconsciously toward the short cut.

If there is one simple truth about success and anything that matters to you, it is that success is not about taking the escalator; success is about taking the stairs. It’s about doing the things you know you should be doing even when you don’t feel like doing them.

  • We don’t live in a take-the-stairs world, we live in an escalator world.
  • People in our society ask, “How do I make the most amount of money with the least amount of effort?”
  • It’s not just in our financial lives. There is always someone who is telling us how to lose our gut the easy way.
  • Entire industries have collapsed because we have people saying, “How can I buy it now? How can I have it now? And I don’t want to pay for it until later.”

This buying-on-credit mentality might work in some parts of our life, but it’s not the truth about success.

 

Discipline:

 

  • If I had to boil the truth of success down into one simple word, it’s discipline.
  • Even though it’s the truth about success, it’s not popular.
  • The most successful people in the world have the discipline to do the things they know should be doing even when they don’t feel like doing them.
  • It’s the discipline to take the stairs even though we live in an escalator world.

 

STORY:

 

I learned about discipline as a young child. At age 5, I started studying martial arts. By age 10, I had become the youngest black belt in Colorado to ever get beaten up by a girl. I told my mom I didn’t like it, and she would say, “Enjoying it isn’t a requirement of doing it.”

Enjoying it isn’t a requirement of doing it.

 

Path to greatness

 

  • After a career of studying success, ultra-performers and high achievers in all different industries, I want to encourage you, challenge you and invite you to do the things you don’t want to do.
  • Doing things you don’t want to do is the shortest, most guaranteed path to greatness. That is the truth of success, even though we don’t see it in popular culture.
  • We want to believe in overnight success, but the reality is that success comes down to a take-the-stairs mindset.
  • Become the kind of person who will do that which others will not. Do the things you know you should be doing.
  • Discipline is not as hard as we all think once we know how to think about it the right way.

 

Ultra-performers don’t like discipline any more than the rest of us.

 

  • They have learned to train their brain to think differently.
  • They process choices through a different set of lenses than most people’s brains.
  • They choose a path that most people wouldn’t take.

We have to train our brain to think differently about discipline.

The take-the-stairs mindset can transform your life and can be the gateway to anyone conquering impossible goals.

 

Principle 1) Magnification principle of focus

 

  • If I were to go outside on a hot day, and put a piece of paper on the ground, nothing would happen. But if I were to take a magnifying glass and hold it in between the sun and the paper, what happens to the paper? It catches on fire.
  • Focus is power. Sunlight, if focused enough, can catch a piece of paper on fire.
  • Water can actually be streamlined enough to cut through steel.
  • We all know the things we should do, but we don’t do them. We don’t focus on them.
  • In the escalator culture, we put off the things we know we should be doing.

What is the word for putting off things we should be doing? Procrastination.

 

How much does procrastination cost?

 

  • 10,000 US employees in a study were asked anonymously, “In any given 40-hour work week how much of your time do you waste on non-job-related activities?”
  • The average employee self admits to wasting 2.09 hours each day.
  • Nationwide the average salaried employee makes about $40,000 a year, which means if we are procrastinating an average of 2 hours out of every single day, our procrastinating costs us an average of $10,396 per year, per employee.
  • Procrastination is the most expensive invisible cost in business today.
  • Procrastination is an invisible cost because we don’t measure it, but it is huge, and the same is true in our personal lives.
  • It’s not that we don’t have the skills, network or resources, it’s that we put off doing the things we know we should be doing, and that has a tremendous impact on our ability to conquer impossible goals.

 

There are three types of procrastination:

 

  1. Classic procrastination – Consciously delaying what you know you should be doing
  2. Creative Avoidance – Unconsciously filling the day with menial work to be busy being busy; distraction.
      1. It makes us feel productive or successful. It’s just being busy.
      2. Most of us will lose to distraction much more than we will to ever lose to not being smart enough or not having the right skills.
      3. In the absence of a clearly defined plan, we become strangely loyal to performing daily acts of meaningless trivia, and we get addicted to it.
  3. Priority Dilution – (Un)consciously delaying by allowing your attention to shift to less important tasks; interruption
      1. It has nothing to do with being lazy or apathetic or disengaged. We delay on the day’s most significant priorities, not because we’re lazy, but because we allow our attention to either shift either consciously or unconsciously, or subconsciously to tasks that are less important but are perhaps more urgent.
      2. This is living in a constant state of interruption—always falling for what it latest and most urgent.

 

You have inside of you everything that you need to conquer your impossible goals, the only thing that is missing is focus.

When you have diluted focus, you get diluted results.

 

Principle 2) The buy-in principle of commitment

 

There is a very specific principle concerning our ability to follow up on commitment, and we call this the buy-in principle of commitment.

  • The more we have invested into something, the less likely we are to fail.
  • This explains why it’s so hard to lose loved ones. It is hard to lose any relationship we care about.

While it is easy to understand this principle logically, it is hard to live by pragmatically.

In a nationwide research sampling of Americans, we asked, “How long do Americans follow through on new year’s resolutions?”

  • Over 60% of Americans will not make it past 30 days with a resolution.
  • 18% of people who make new year’s resolutions can’t keep that resolution even one day.

Why do we make commitments and so easily not follow through with them?

  • What most people do is make their decision based on the physical energy to execute and follow through on a commitment.
  • Let’s say at one point in your life you made a resolution to lose a little weight. And today is the day you decide to go to the gym. You go through this thought process, “Do I feel like working out right now?” And what is the answer? “No!” And for most of us that is the end of the conversation.

 

Here is what we learned from ultra-performers:

 

Emotional Energy

 

  • There is another type of energy being expended in our decision making. It’s not physical energy it is emotional energy.
  • Any time we make a decision, there is energy expended in just making the decision.
  • Very often the emotional energy to make the decision is even greater than the physical energy to execute that decision.
  • It’s not getting ourselves on the treadmill once we’re at the gym that is the hard part, it’s when we are sitting on the couch deciding whether or not we should even go.
  • It is the decision itself that is the hard part, not the following through.
  • Most of us lose in the decision-making process. We have more energy than we realize. It’s the emotional energy that is clouding the decision and making it feel more difficult than it really is.

 

Decision threshold

 

  • Eventually you will come up to the decisional threshold, which is where you are forced to make a choice.
  • You have two options: you can move forward OR you can turn back towards the way that you’ve always done things.
  • You can go back towards the way you’ve always done things, and this wouldn’t be a failure, this would just be staying where you are.
  • The decisional threshold is where the one degree of separation happens between the world’s ultra-performers and everybody else.
  • It comes down to the person’s attitude.

 

Attitude

 

  • Attitude is simply the way you choose to see things.
  • You can choose to see rain, or you can choose to see liquid sunshine. What we don’t have a choice over is whether or not those drops fall from the sky.
  • What happens is that there are so many challenge and obstacles and rejection that we spend all this emotional energy on thinking about how we have to deal with all this challenge, that we have no emotional energy left to simply go get an umbrella and keep going.

 

Neutral Attitude

 

  • The attitude for most of us sounds like “I’m not sure yet.” It’s not necessarily negative, but it is neutral.
  • Neutral always becomes negative. Neutral IS negative. Neutral is not good enough. It is not good enough to have a neutral attitude.
  • There is one degree of difference that has a significant effect on what happens in the future, and that is the attitude of saying, “I’m in it for good.”
  • The person who says, “I’m not sure yet” gets plagued with this question: “Should I?”

 

Positive Attitude

 

  • The person who says, “I’m in for good” has a different question that comes to mind: “How will I?”
  • When we start asking the question “how?” our minds transcend all limitations. We break free of these barriers and mental prisons about what is possible for our life and what isn’t possible.
  • Asking “how?” pushes us over the decisional threshold as our creativity engages. This is what we call the pivot point.

 

The Pivot Point

 

  • The pivot point is when the leader’s thinking shifts to “How will I?”
  • “How?” creativity engages and our brain processes on the question until one day we wake up and the answer comes, or we meet someone who opens a door for us, or we learn something because our minds are set to receive it, or our team comes up with the answer.
  • The pivot point is not the moment the leader comes up with the answer, the pivot point is when the leader starts asking the right question, and that question is “How?”

 

The attitude of the leader creates the momentum of the team.

 

  • Increase your commitment by intentional creating the question “how?” rather than accidentally relenting to the question “should?”
  • We never get to stop being disciplined. That doesn’t mean that life is a big giant trip to the gym.

 

The RENT Axiom

 

  • The reason why we don’t get to stop being disciplined is because of something called the RENT axiom.
  • The rent axiom says this: No matter who you are, or who you were yesterday, or who you are today, it doesn’t really matter because success is never owned, success is only rented, and the rent is due every day. You can switch out the word success with something you care about.
      • Financial security is only rented, and the rent is due every day.
      • Being in great physical health is only rented, and the rent is due every day.
      • A happy marriage is only rented, and the rent is due every day.
      • Being a great leader is only rented, and the rent is due every day.

Maybe it’s hard to hear because it feels like there is not a finish line, but this is the most empowering truth of all. When you embrace this idea, you’ll stop wasting time looking for short cuts. You’ll stop trying to mislead yourself into believing some secret pill, or potion or hidden formula that other people know that you don’t know. Then you’ll start doing the things you know you should be doing, and when you do that, you’ll start to see results and you’ll build momentum.

One day you will wake up conquering the things that were impossible by simply doing the things you knew all along you should be doing.

The next time you’re in front of a set of escalators or a set of stairs, take the stairs.

 

To watch this incredible talk by Rory Vaden, click here.

For more from Rory Vaden you can go to his website RoryVaden.com/GLS for a free hour-long training on the 5 Permissions to Multiply Your Time. You can also join us to hear Rory and 15 other world-class faculty at the upcoming Summit Replay events taking place on October 22-23 and November 6-7. Learn more at theglsn.org/Replay.

Ep 080: Your Leadership Pace, Michael Todd & Jason Jaggard

The Global Leadership Summit Podcast

SUMMARY:

How fast is your leadership pace these days? Are you running so fast that you don’t have any time for friends, family, reflection and growth? Are you sensing a lack of peace? Or are you in a slower season where it might be time to step back into a challenging vision again? Pastor Michael Todd discovered a surprising truth about the pace of leadership when he made the choice to stride instead of strive. By choosing a slower and more intentional pace, he not only found more peace in his life, but amazing things started to happen. In this episode of the GLS Podcast, elite executive coach Jason Jaggard interviews Pastor Mike about how to find your optimal leadership pace.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS:

  • Stride means to walk in long decisive steps in an intentional direction.
  • Strive means to use all your effort and energy to try to make something happen.
  • When you are in “Stride,” you enjoy life. You have margin. You can rest. And your organization can function without you.
  • Pace affects peace–and peace is true prosperity.
  • The need for financial success, notoriety and fame often comes from a deep place of insecurity.
  • All you have is all you need.
  • If you steward the season you are in–and find fulfilment and contentment in that season–the next season will automatically come.
  • In Michael Todd’s life, doing less allowed him to have increased impact.
  • To find your best leadership pace:
    • Slow down.
    • Ask yourself if what you are doing aligns with your passion.
    • If you are complacent, you may need to step up your pace in order to grow.
  • Deciding to create a new pace for yourself is a choice.
  • Envision your life at a new pace.
  • Sight is what you see with your eyes open. Vision is what you see with your eyes closed.
  • The vision isn’t valid until it’s visual. Write it down. Every time you write down a vision, things start to happen.
  • Talk about your vision. Be verbal. Tell your spouse, your friends, your staff. Ask for accountability.
  • If you decide to operate at a slower pace, you can bring more people with you.
  • Most leaders don’t operate at a pace that will help them to personally grow.
  • Some pace experiments:
    • Give staff an extra ½ day off
    • Fun month: at 4:00 we do fun things
    • 2 times per year, we cancel Sunday Services so that people can rest and be with their families.
    • 35-day Sabbatical
  • When I take that moment to pause, whatever comes next is more potent.
  • I’m fighting for that sweet spot between hard work and wholeness. I’m working to find the tension between giving everything I’ve got and not worrying too much about it.

 

 

REFLECTION QUESTIONS:

1. Pastor Michael Todd’s key insight came when he began to understand the difference between STRIDE and STRIVE. Reflect on your life over the past two days. Identify the actions you took in stride vs. those when you were in strive.

  • Actions I took in STRIDE: To walk in long decisive steps in an intentional direction.

 

  • Actions I Took in STRIVE: To use all your effort and energy to try and make something happen.

 

2. What patterns do you see in your life? In what situations are you more likely to STRIVE? In what situations are you more likely to STRIDE?

 

3. What do you think is driving your need to STRIVE? What would it take for you to shift to a new pace?

 

4. Michael identified several things you could do to begin to move into the STRIDE life. Take a look at the list below and place a checkmark by the next step you could take in your life this week.

_________ Slow down and ask yourself if what you are doing aligns with your passion.

_________ Reflect on whether you have allowed yourself to get comfortable or complacent.

_________ Envision yourself at a new pace.

_________ Write your vision down on paper.

_________ Share your vision with your spouse, your friends and your staff.

 

 

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

American Dream 

Blues Clues 

Andy Stanley 

P.K. (Preachers Kid) 

Relationship Goals Series 

Max DuPree 

 

RELATED LINKS:

Pastor Michael Todd 

The Pace of Leadership GLS Talk 

Relationship Goals 

Jason Jaggard 

Novus Global 

Paula Faris 

Journeys of Faith with Paula Faris 

The Global Leadership Summit

 

 

The Tension is Real

Why You Need A “Mount Rushmore” of Mentors to Grow as a Communicator---Bryan Loritts

Leadership is tension.

  • the past vs. the present
  • the present vs. the future
  • short-term vs. long-term
  • sales vs. profits
  • the economy vs. public safety
  • the means vs. the ends
  • and on and on the list continues

These tensions, and many others have been on full display during our recent challenges as a nation and a planet. In the midst of unprecedented uncertainty, people look to their leaders for answers. However, as with many situations in life, there are often no easy answers.

Wise leaders are keenly aware of the pitfalls of providing simple answers to complex issues.

For many years, I have been talking about one of the tensions that is front and center today: results vs. relationships, or as some like to frame it, the head vs. the heart.

Let me remind you—this is a trap and a false choice.

 

The best leaders value both head and heart!

Of all the fundamentals of leadership, managing this tension of valuing both results and relationships, is extremely difficult for most leaders.

The conundrum emerges based on our own temperament and personality. Based on unscientific research conducted over several decades, I would suggest that about half the leaders have a natural bias toward results and roughly half lean toward relationships. However, there is a small group of leaders, maybe 5%, who God has blessed with a natural proclivity for both. For all the rest of us, this is really hard work.

Our goal is not to change our natural wiring. My assumption is that God knew what He was doing when he made each one of us.

But don’t miss the point: If you want to lead to your full potential, you need to value both results and relationships—the head and the heart.

I’ve already said this is hard, but there is an answer: Compensate where you are not naturally oriented. Like a pair of prescription glasses, smart leaders dial in the right corrective measures to improve where they are not strong.

Tips for heart-oriented leaders

If your tendency is to focus on the heart (relationships), you can compensate on the head (results) side of the equation with any number of tactical interventions. Here are a few to jumpstart your thinking:

  • Set team and individual goals; share them with others.
  • Be sure you have some men and women on your team with a results bias.
  • Establish a current team scorecard. Review it at every meeting.
  • Establish a team norm of personal accountability.
  • Document your action items from every meeting and review them at the next meeting to ensure accomplishment.

 

Tips for head-oriented leaders

If, on the other hand, you gravitate more easily to the head (results), you too can compensate as well.

  • Be sure you have leaders on your team who have a heart bias.
  • Focus on listening deeply when talking with people—don’t run ahead in your mind.
  • Set some goals around activities like writing notes of encouragement and appreciation.
  • Build in systems and mechanisms to help facilitate personal interaction (e.g. one-on-one meetings)

 

My top heart vs. head tip

More than that, here’s my top recommendation for compensating for your heart or head bias. It comes from an experience I had many years ago…

I was asked by the International Bible Society to go to eastern Europe on a photo assignment—yes, in addition to selling chicken, I am a photographer. When I asked the team to provide me with a shot list (the images they hoped I would capture), I was struck by their response:

“Our team will stop twice every day while you are away and ask God to help you see with His eyes. If you see with His eyes, you will know what to photograph.” Wow!

Many years have passed since that trip. Now, I don’t have a team praying this life-altering prayer for me multiple times a day. Today, I pray it for myself, not as a photographer, as a human being and a leader.

God give me your eyes. Let me see every circumstance, every situation, every person, with your eyes.

That’s my prayer for you today.

Regardless of your context, regardless of your natural bias, fully acknowledging the tensions you must resolve and those you must manage, I pray that you will see with God’s eyes and lead based on what you see.

Leading a Movement to Empower Trafficking Survivors

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On February 23, 2009 I found myself starting life over with nothing. I was flying from London, England to Grants Pass, Oregon with my nine-year-old little girl and a couple suitcases to our name. I had just run from a world of underground human trafficking. As she pulled the little eye mask over her eyes and drifted to sleep, I cried. With my only plan to sleep on couches, get on food stamps and government housing and maybe find a minimum wage job, the waves despair crashed over me—over and over and over.

I’ll go ahead and warn you: I’m going to share some tough stories. But I promise you, there’s light at the end of the tunnel.

Unlocking the Dreams and Skills of Trafficking SurvivorsGrowing up in small town Oregon I spent my summers skipping rocks on the river and taking a saltshaker out to the garden to pick tomatoes. My seemingly normal childhood—an outgoing honor roll student and varsity athlete—still had deep rooted vulnerabilities: a parent’s alcoholism that led to divorce. My mom a single mom. My school years showed that even “normal kids” from “good homes’ have traumas.

At seventeen, accepted into University, I thought I’d found the next chapter of getting out of my small town to see the world. But, suddenly pregnant and alone, those old vulnerabilities resurfaced. Until I met a young man who seemed to have all the support and care and solutions to scale my dreams. But that quickly became a nightmare when my “boyfriend” took me to Las Vegas and forced me into trafficking for nearly six years.

Rebecca Bender Mug ShotDuring that time, I was traded between three traffickers. I was bought and sold nightly. I was branded twice. Two men tattooed their names on my back like I was a piece of cattle. My face was broken in multiple places. I was hospitalized for dehydration and over exhaustion. Several different times, I was arrested for prostitution-related charges. I attempted to escape on four occasions and made it out for a short period of time. I tried to commit suicide twice. I was trapped in a life of chaos, with no hope for escape.

In 2006, the Feds raided one of our trafficker’s homes and broke up the organized crime ring that controlled the operation. I saw an open window of opportunity after they took a plea deal for tax evasion, and in 2007, I made my last and final escape and I grabbed my daughter and ran.

Running for my life was the hardest, scariest decision I’d ever made. Because you’re leaving with nothing. You have no social capital, no education, not even a pillow or fork to your name. Yes, you escape. In my case, I returned home to Oregon to try a fresh start. But then it’s like, now what? What will I do with the rest of my life?

All I knew is that I had a huge gap in my job history, a criminal record and a ton of PTSD.

Turning my life around

I sat at my yard sale mismatched kitchen finds one night and got mad at God, “Is this really what you saved me for? Is this the abundant life I hear about in church?”

I was trapped in a life of chaos, with no hope for escape.

He replied, “If you give Me the same amount of time you gave the enemy, I’ll never be outdone.”

So, I told Jesus I’d give him six years. And things got radically better.

It wasn’t easy. Turning your life around is hard. It’s digging your heels in when you want to run and go back to what’s familiar instead of trying to navigate this new world that you know nothing about. It’s determining in your heart that you will do the opposite of what your brain is telling you to do. It’s strengthening your spirit and saying no to your flesh, understanding that neurology and trauma are real. It’s working deliberately and thoughtfully to take thoughts captive until they form new pathways in Christ.

During that time, I got a great job and married a wonderful man, and we eventually started our own business. I was learning to embrace normalcy.

But then one morning, the Holy Spirit spoke, “How can you sit in your comfy house with a cup of coffee when you know what it’s like to be more afraid to go home then it is to get in a car with a stranger? How can rest when you know there are girls trapped in that life?”

Called to serve

So, in 2014, we sold our business and started the Rebecca Bender Initiative. My goal was to equip community professionals to recognize and respond to sexual exploitation. At first, I started anywhere that anyone would listen: MOPS, Youth Groups, etc.

We began by teaching them what human trafficking looks like and God blew favor. We turned it into a law enforcement training — how it works, how to reach the victims, and how to get to the bad guys. To date, our team has trained well over 100,000 first responders, including the FBI, Special Victims’ units, vice and Homeland Security. I’ve even worked several cases as a human trafficking expert, taking the stand to testify at trials.

Rebecca Bender and Survivors wth Jimmy Carter

Rebecca Bender and Survivors with Jimmy Carter

But shortly after, survivors and nonprofits started reaching out and asking if we offered any mentoring services for survivors find their Now What? I was finishing my master’s degree in Christian Thought from Bethel Seminary and again, the Holy Spirit dropped in my heart. “If you can get a master’s online you can mentor online.”

It’s one thing to dream. It’s another to be able to lead people in the fight.

So, I replicated what my seminary was doing. I got the technology, wrote a 16-week curriculum and launched Elevate Academy; an online school geared to mentor survivors for life after trafficking. We started with five women and now we’ve had 756 survivors of trafficking in 8 countries and 3 languages who receive the holistic support they need to start over and heal regardless of where they live.

We’ve given them a faith-based toolkit that helps them unlock their dreams and skills. We help them unearth their purpose and worth and give them the encouragement and opportunities to go after all they were created to be. I want all people to know that their past does not have to determine their destiny.

Leadership changes everything

When I think about back of all God has done in this last decade and all that I can be through him in the next, I think about leadership. I’ll be honest, I was kind of just feeling my way along in the beginning. I knew that as a survivor of human trafficking, I was being called by God to help others. But I lacked any kind of understanding of true leadership. I knew I could share a good story, but I didn’t know how to be a leader. You’ve got to remember; I ran from a small farm town. I didn’t have a lot of people pouring into me and encouraging me to dream big.

Don Flow quoteBut about six years ago, a pastor friend invited me to my first Global Leadership Summit. It was being live streamed at a church nearby. He had an extra ticket, so I went. And I was just floored by what I heard. I remember being totally inspired by a speaker named Don Flow. He owns a car dealership in North Carolina, and he talked about coming alongside his employees and helping them dream. He gave them paid hours off to do what they love and give back to their community. In the process, it made them feel more invested in their work, and ultimately, they wanted to do more for the company.

With inspiration from his talk, I wrote a manifesto for how I wanted to lead the team that God was entrusting me with. And I began to run my nonprofit with the idea that it was going to be a bootcamp for the future leaders that God brought to my team.

I’ve had mentors in my life. I’ve had bosses and pastors. But The Global Leadership Summit exposed me to things I’d never been shown. It gave me the tools to expand my leadership and to develop my nonprofit with Kingdom principles in mind. I became not only a better leader, but a bolder leader – a leader who learned how to have crucial conversations and how to own my 10%, a leader who learned how to lead through the dip, with a pace of grace.

Today, we are committed to changing the way America sees and responds to human trafficking.

We’re helping people and their churches and organizations find their lane and we’re equipping survivors to find a seat at the table in almost every community in the U.S.

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We take this giant issue and break into bite-sized chunks: prevention, intervention, outreach, restoration, policy reform and demand. When you look at all the nuances, you see the onramps to exploitation and the exit ramps are areas the church can be a catalyst for change. With high rates of foster kids at risk for trafficking we must do better. With high rates of young men addicted to porn turning to buying sex by 30, we must do better. We must be those as Albert Tate called, table flipping leaders to fight systems on both ends.

The GLS gave me the practical leadership tools I need to make my vision a reality. It’s one thing to dream. It’s another to be able to lead people in the fight.

When I was leaving London, I thought God could never use me in my small town, that I’d never find my place, my calling, be mentored or have a tribe. Today, because of Him and because of communities like the men and women who are a part of the Global Leadership Network, I learned that Jesus loves girls like me. I get to write books and produce, see women get their first job and find their lane. I’ve wept and cried on street outreaches and ran to crisis calls with detectives to pick up teens. Now I serve on the National Advisory Council to Congress, the Dept of Justice and many other boards. I get to help people see that it’s not just about being a voice for the voiceless, it’s about helping others use their voice to lead a movement.

To multiply the impact of positive influence and transformation in our world, consider donating to the Global Leadership Network to see more survivor leaders like Rebecca Bender receive the opportunity to attend The Global Leadership Summit! Send your gifts to theglsn.org/Give today!

Free Webinar—Multiply Your Time with Rory Vaden

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Stop feeling busy, buried and behind. And never again experience guilt over how you spend your time.

As a leader, you’ve probably become proficient at burning both ends of the candle. You’re a multi-tasker, a hustler and you pride yourself on your ability to do it all.

But by now you’ve probably realized that no matter how efficient you become, the busy work always expands to fill the time available. And your to-do list? It can quickly go from feeling like a productive tool to a prison sentence.

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could multiply your time?

Right now, exclusive for the Global Leadership Network, my team is offering exclusive free access to our webinar:

Multiply Your Time: How Leaders Create Exponential Results with Limited Resources >>

 

You can’t solve today’s time management problems with yesterday’s time management strategies. To get the results you want as a leader, you’re going to need a new way of looking at time. You need to learn how to multiply time.

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