SUMMARY:
“Leadership is hard, and you will get hurt,” says author Lysa TerKeurst. While forgiveness is more commonly addressed in a counselor’s office than a corporate boardroom, Lysa TerKeurst cites evidence that a leader’s ability to forgive is a game-changer for organizational culture. In this episode, Lysa sits down for a vulnerable conversation with elite executive coach, Jason Jaggard, challenging you to work toward forgiveness and create emotionally safe workplaces where innovation can flourish.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
- One of the biggest barriers to innovation is fear—and one of the biggest anecdotes to fear is forgiveness.
- If you have created a culture where grace doesn’t freely flow, your team’s response to your shortcomings will boomerang back on you.
- Leadership is hard and you will get hurt.
- Leadership means people love you until they don’t.
- You deserve to stop suffering because of what other people have done to you.
- Signs of bitterness in the workplace: sarcasm, the curse of the comeback, pre-meditated resentments, jumping to worst-case scenarios and more.
- When you’ve been wronged, you see the other person as the sinner and yourself as the saint. In reality, you are both called to be servants.
- The most crucial part of forgiveness is for us to recognize how much we need it.
- We think resentment gives us a pass and protects us. In reality, resentment imprisons us.
- You can tell someone is in pain by how much they present themselves as wronged in their stories.
- Grief is dreaming in reverse. When we dream, we envision something that’s going to happen in the future. When we grieve, we dream about the way things used to be or the way we wanted them to be.
- Memories of the past can become triggers that cripple you in the present.
- When it’s hysterical, it’s historical.
- When faced with a painful memory:
- Collect the dots–identify the memories that are causing you pain
- Connect the dots–look for the connection between the memories
- Correct the dots–try to find a new path to a better story
- Ask yourself, “What is the pervasive shame-filled lie that I keep telling myself?”
- Figure out, “What is the new script that will combat that lie?”
- When you walk into a room, don’t let your script define the interaction.
- The very best time to forgive is before you were ever offended. The next best time is now.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
- In this podcast,Lysa identified four signsof bitterness and unforgiveness on a team. Which one(s) do you see operating on your team?
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- Sarcasm
- The curse of the comeback
- Pre-meditated resentments
- Jumping to worst-case scenarios
- When those kinds of behaviors exist, howdoesit affect your team culture?
- Based on the process Lysa went throughto identifythe pains in her life, what is a painful shame-filled lie that might be affecting your interactions in the workplace?
- How can you write a new script to combat that lie?
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Forbes article: Forgiveness as a Business Tool
Forbes article: Forgiveness: The Secret to Innovation
Inc.com article: Forgiveness: A Key Tool for Business Success
It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered
Table Stakes
Forgiving When You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories and Create A Life That’s Beautiful Again
RELATED LINKS:
Lysa TerKeurst
2020 GLS Talk, The Most Surprising Hindrance to Innovation (Video)
2020 GLS Talk, The Most Surprising Hindrance to Innovation (Notes)
Proverbs 31 Ministries
Jason Jaggard
Novus Global
Paula Faris
Journeys of Faith with Paula Faris
The Global Leadership Summit
Lysa TerKeurst
President; Best-Selling Author | Proverbs 31 MinistriesJason Jaggard
Coach, Speaker, Author and Founder | Novus GlobalPaula Faris
Founder | CARRY Media™Ep 082: The Emotionally Safe Leader, Lysa TerKeurst & Jason Jaggard
TOPICS IN THIS PODCAST
Change ManagementConflict ManagementLeading Others“Leadership is hard, and you will get hurt,” says author Lysa TerKeurst. While forgiveness is more commonly addressed in a counselor’s office than a corporate boardroom, Lysa TerKeurst cites evidence that a leader’s ability to forgive is a game-changer for organizational culture. In this episode, Lysa sits down for a vulnerable conversation with elite executive coach, Jason Jaggard, challenging you to work toward forgiveness and create emotionally safe workplaces where innovation can flourish.
On This Podcast
Lysa TerKeurst
Proverbs 31 Ministries
Reaching millions of people through her writing and teaching, Lysa TerKeurst is the President of Proverbs 31 Ministries and founder of COMPEL Writer Training. Lysa has been published in many publications, featured on Fox News, Opra and The Today Show and has been awarded the Champions of Faith Author Award. The best-selling author of more than 20 books, her most recent release is, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered.
Jason Jaggard
Novus Global
Jason Jaggard is an entrepreneur, author, executive coach and speaker. His work has been translated into over 50 languages and has been featured in Fast Company, Forbes, Entrepreneur and Chief Executive Magazine. He is the founder of Novus Global, an executive coaching firm working with Fortune 500 companies, professional athletes, elected officials and some of the most famous entertainers on earth. He also co-founded and is on the faculty of The Meta Performance Institute, which helps coaches create six figure practices serving high performing leaders and teams. His next book, Beyond High Performance: What Great Coaches Know about How the Best Get Better is out this May, 2023.
Paula Faris
CARRY Media™
Paula Faris is an Emmy-Award winning journalist, speaker, best-selling author of Called Out: Why I Traded Two Dream Jobs For A Life Of True Calling, and host of the Paula Faris Faith & Calling podcast, where she talks to inspirational people about what they're called to do and who they're called to be. Faris spent the last nine years at ABC news, during which she was co-anchor of Good Morning America weekend edition and co-host of The View. While at the network she reported on everything from politics, news and entertainment to sports and faith. In 2022, Faris launched CARRY Media™ with the desire to champion, advocate and celebrate working mothers across America.
Show Notes
SUMMARY:
“Leadership is hard, and you will get hurt,” says author Lysa TerKeurst. While forgiveness is more commonly addressed in a counselor’s office than a corporate boardroom, Lysa TerKeurst cites evidence that a leader’s ability to forgive is a game-changer for organizational culture. In this episode, Lysa sits down for a vulnerable conversation with elite executive coach, Jason Jaggard, challenging you to work toward forgiveness and create emotionally safe workplaces where innovation can flourish.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
REFLECTION QUESTIONS:
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Forbes article: Forgiveness as a Business Tool
Forbes article: Forgiveness: The Secret to Innovation
Inc.com article: Forgiveness: A Key Tool for Business Success
It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way: Finding Unexpected Strength When Disappointments Leave You Shattered
Table Stakes
Forgiving When You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories and Create A Life That’s Beautiful Again
RELATED LINKS:
Lysa TerKeurst
2020 GLS Talk, The Most Surprising Hindrance to Innovation (Video)
2020 GLS Talk, The Most Surprising Hindrance to Innovation (Notes)
Proverbs 31 Ministries
Jason Jaggard
Novus Global
Paula Faris
Journeys of Faith with Paula Faris
The Global Leadership Summit
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